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I just realized what my biggest flaw at the moment has been...



...thanks to message conversation with my schoolmate. I realized I'm too lenient, that I should be firmer what comes toward myself. That if I offer my help and other one denies it, but later on asks it, I should be right to way all hurt and show it, instead later on, just so I wouldn't be labelled as 'nasty person'. That has happened to me more than once and I've suffered lot of, because of that. I've always been the 'bad guy', because I wasn't enough self-aware about the fact I should demand respect and not just wait other one will realize that all quietly and be thankful from my help. I've helped many people do things for them without a single 'thank you' or otherwise gratefulness and just let them carry on that, without demanding right to way 'I helped you, so where is my thank you? I've my pride too, so show me some gratefulness!' Maybe not such harsh mannerism is good, but I should learn how to make people understand that I too wish gratefulness or...something. That if they want my help in the future too or something like that, I shouldn't always be the last option for them. The conversation with my schoolmate showed me that. That because I'm basically her last option, she will take me. And since I usually foolishly disagree at this point, I'm the 'bad guy'. I should had been right to way when she was all 'nah, I'll at first ask someone other' all 'okay fine, my offers off'. Or something like that.

I'm kind of glad I realized that, but I know it'll probably take lot of time before I'll learn to demand respect. I'm very...'lenient' to say. That isn't exactly the right word for it, but I think the best example would be like training a cat: if the cat is defecating inside your house and you want teach it to be housebroken, the best way is to grab its neck and hit its rhinarium into it right to way. If you do that few days later, it won't remember that and it'll be all confused why you did that. With people it appears to be the same: if they throw you with sh!t the best way is to grab their neck and make them smell it, so they won't do it again.

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:icontheredsasha:
TheRedSasha Featured By Owner 6 days ago
Aj perkele

You're from Suomiland
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:iconmisstuliharja:
MissTuliharja Featured By Owner 6 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
Yeah, I'm from Finland and you're from Sweden. What about that?
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:icontheredsasha:
TheRedSasha Featured By Owner 6 days ago
It's like destinies have crossed. Nah, I just dig Finland. Chill country, from what I know.
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:iconmisstuliharja:
MissTuliharja Featured By Owner 5 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
Heh, it appears so. :D That's cool to know~.
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caastel Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2017
thx for fav ;)
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:iconmisstuliharja:
MissTuliharja Featured By Owner Dec 4, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome. ^^
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:icondarkuchihasharingan:
DarkUchihaSharingan Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2017  Hobbyist Interface Designer
nice gallery you have talent n_n, and thanks for the comment.
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:iconmisstuliharja:
MissTuliharja Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you very much from your kind words. ^^ You're welcome. Thank you for the watch too~.
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DarkUchihaSharingan Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2017  Hobbyist Interface Designer
don't worry and you're welcome, could i send you a private message?
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:iconmisstuliharja:
MissTuliharja Featured By Owner Oct 26, 2017  Hobbyist General Artist
Of course you can send me PM if you want to. ^^
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